How choosing the right suppliers can make your wedding planning less stressful and more enjoyable

Oh wedding planning. On the one hand it’s one of the most wonderful things because you’re planning what will hopefully be one of the most magical days of your life. On the other hand it can be very daunting and stressful because, well, you’re planning what will hopefully be one of the most magical days of your life.

As a calligrapher I love obsessing over the details to make my client’s dream wedding stationery come true. As a bride to be I quickly felt overwhelmed by all the decisions that had to be made.

So how did I plan our dream wedding while keeping calm and enjoying the process? I shifted my decision making from each tiny detail to which suppliers I trusted would blow me away with their work. Read on for my tips on how to choose your suppliers and where to find them. Interspersed with photos from our big day, captured by the wonderful Gina Dover-Jaques.

 
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 My beautiful bouquet from  Grace & Thorn .

My beautiful bouquet from Grace & Thorn.

The magic of choosing the right suppliers

As a calligrapher I’m lucky enough to get to be part of making my clients’ wedding stationery dreams come true. It’s one of my favourite parts of my job. But I have the luxury of being able to obsess over the details I add to the day, because it’s a small part of it. When you choose the right suppliers they can each focus on making the thing they’re best at absolutely perfect for your big day. Meaning you can let go of the stress of making each individual decision. And get more time for the enjoyable bits, like seeing your dream stationery come alive or testing the food for your reception (easily one of my highlights from wedding planning). In the words of one of my lovely brides to be:


“From start to finish, Mathilda was involved in every step of the process, listening to my ideas and giving suggestions of her own. Mathilda was patient in the entire development of my wedding invitations and together we came up with the perfect end-product. She provided visual aids, added custom personalizations, and made the whole design process so enjoyable and easy! Finally seeing the invitations in person, which were carefully wrapped and shipped to the US, was the most exciting part of my wedding planning process so far and I can’t wait to continue working with her on the remaining paper products for the wedding!”

– Erika, Bride to be



What I want you to take with you from that testimonial is how the process was made enjoyable and easy. How seeing her wedding invitations in person was the most exciting part of her wedding planning so far. For me, being allowed the privilege of supplying wedding stationery and calligraphy details is not just about designing something pretty. It’s about taking some things off my couple’s to-do list and making the process enjoyable and exciting for them. That’s what I was looking for when choosing my suppliers and that’s what I would encourage you to do to make your journey to your wedding as wonderful as possible.

 
 Love this white ink on grey envelopes.

Love this white ink on grey envelopes.

 
 
 I’m in love with  Dulwich Picture Gallery .

I’m in love with Dulwich Picture Gallery.

Things to consider when choosing your suppliers

This is going to depend on what is important to you. So sit down with a cup of tea (or pour yourself a glass of nice red wine) and a notebook and think about what you want to get out of your suppliers. For me I wanted suppliers whose aesthetic I liked with lovely personalities. People I felt like I was able to reach out to and ask questions along the way.

As an example one of the things I was the most worried about was photography.  I wanted stunning photos but I am incredibly awkward in front of the camera. We decided on Gina Dover-Jaques who I already knew from Instagram. She had photographed some of my wedding stationery so I knew her fine art style was exactly what I wanted but also that she is just this amazing person. She made the photography one of the most memorable part of our day and we have the most beautiful (not awkward in the least) photos from our wedding.

 
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Romantic wedding in an art gallery
 

Where to find your suppliers

When I was looking for suppliers I wanted to get a feel for their aesthetic and personality. Some areas I suggest you use in your search are:

  • Inspiration wedding websites like Rock My Wedding.
    I adore the RMW aesthetic and spent quite a bit of time here, both getting inspired by their real wedding stories and looking at their list of recommended suppliers.

  • Instagram.
    I love when you can get a bit of a feel for a supplier’s personality and I find Instagram helpful for this.

  • Through your other suppliers.
    Working in the industry a lot of us have people we adore working with and are happy to recommend. As well as all the stunning inspiration that is on there.

  • Friends and family.
    Was there something about a friend’s wedding you loved extra much? Ask who helped them create it.

  • Your local area.
    Have a wander in your area. Maybe your favourite local florist can help you with flowers? Our wedding venue was Dulwich Picture Gallery. A stunning gallery we frequently visit that we knew was meaningful to us and would make the day extra special. Our reception venue was our local hotel/pub. It’s a gorgeous space and we love the food so we just popped in to ask if they do weddings. They never had but were happy to do it for us and we were blown away by the people working there. Absolutely magical from early planning to testing our own wedding cocktails to the actual day.

 
  Tulse Hill Hotel  serves the most amazing food.

Tulse Hill Hotel serves the most amazing food.

 
 I calligraphed the menu items on tiles.

I calligraphed the menu items on tiles.

 

That’s it, I hope this will help you in your path towards your dream wedding. Planning definitely has its’ stressful moments but oh gosh, our wedding day was so much more filled with love and joy than I could have ever imagined. Both because of our wonderful friends and family, but also because of the love and dedication our suppliers put into all the details.

Do you have any tips for making wedding planning a breeze? How did you find your wedding suppliers? How did you know which to choose for your big day? I’d love to hear what has worked for you!

Are you interested in how I can help make the path towards your dream wedding stationery more enjoyable and exciting?

 
 

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How to use the Finetec palette for your calligraphy

 

If you're into Modern Calligraphy, and have been looking for something to give your work that extra sparkle, you've probably come across the stunning metallic palettes by Finetec (changing their name to Coliro). They have a beautiful range of colours ranging from gold to silver to beautiful rose metallics. With their ingredients of gum arabic and mica-pigments they come out beautifully opaque on both light and dark surfaces. 

But here's the thing that might seem tricky at first sight. They're neatly packaged in little palettes, that looks more like watercolours than a ready to use ink. How do you get the ink from the palette onto your nib without dipping it? Don't worry, it's a bit more of a process than a ready to use ink. But the results are absolutely stunning and well worth the extra effort.
 

Here's what you'll need

  • Finetec colour of your choice

  • Your favourite nib and penholder

  • A small brush

  • A jar of water

  • Some paper to write on

 
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First you add some water to the pigment, let it sit for a couple of seconds or so to let it soften up a bit. After that you want to start to gently mix the water with the pigment. You're looking for a milky consistency (on the top layer, the pigment below is still solid). I usually go between my water jar and the palette a few times. If the ink isn't flowing smoothly I add more water. If I end up with a too watery consistency I just let it sit for a while and let the pigment go back to a more solid state. So experiment and see what consistency works for you. 

 
 

When you're happy with your ink mix you load up your brush and gently paint on the ink on the underside of your nib. Make sure to fill up the reservoir by looking at when the hole is completely covered with ink. And that's it, you're ready to do some sparkling beautiful calligraphy!

 
 

Hope you found this tutorial helpful and please feel free to share it with anyone you think might find it interesting and inspiring.

Experiment, have fun and write something beautiful! And please tag me on Instagram to show me what you've created xx

Festive place cards with wax seals and ribbons

 

One of my favourite things about this festive time of year is all the excuses it provides for us to make beautifully calligraphed gift tags and place cards. I'm currently obsessed with my new wax seal from Stamptitude (also, how can you not love that name?) and black wax from Granit. So I decided to use them to create some place cards for New Years. Including one for our little kitten as well of course. Does this officially make me a crazy kitten mama? The little ribbon makes them perfect to add around each guests napkin at the table. 

So let's get to how to make these! 

 

You will need

  • Thick paper
  • Wax seal
  • Wax
  • Ribbon
  • Something to write with (I used a Nikko G nib with an oblique penholder and sumi ink)

Plus optional sweet treats. I say optional but I’m pretty sure it’s scientifically proven to help with your crafts. I chose mince pies purely because they’re pretty. 

 
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Step 1

Melt your wax.

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Step 2

Attach the ribbon to the paper with your wax and stamp it with a pretty design.

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Step 3

Write the name or message on your tag.

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Step 4

Make someone happy (Alex enjoyed his more than Freja did). Relax and enjoy your well deserved treat.

Hope all of you have a lovely New Years Eve!